Hiya yet again thank you for all the fab advice, I just thought I would let you guys know that this issue has now been resolved, the buyer decided to get something else from my shop at a pound higher value, I have wavered the extra pound for her trouble and I am sending it out for her first thing tomorrow in a handmade box! with wading, tissue paper and wrapped in bubble wrap, I have also been to the post office to explain what happened with the original package and they have given me a form to claim the money back, hope this does not happen again but at least I am know fully prepared on how to deal with the situation, I have changed my policy to state I will give a full refund including the postage with photo proof to give customers peace of mind when ordering from me, I have not asked for photo proof in this situation as I think the customer is genuine and has been very understanding over the issue and I would not want to cause her anymore hassle in the matter. Thanks again for your help :)