I'm right there with you. I'd like to be legal and all (even if I vehemently disagree with the way the law is being handled in this case), but it would sure be nice if someone would just lay out for me what I'm supposed to be doing! I barely have time to stock my etsy shop (sometimes not even that), much less do a ton of research on all the extra things I'm also supposed to do. Agh! It's enough to make me just throw up my hands and walk off. Which is, I suppose, what a lot of people are doing.
One website that may be helpful to you is overlawyered.com -
http://overlawyered.com/tag/cpsia/ I haven't had time to read much there recently, but they seemed to have some good coverage of stuff when I was trying to keep up on the CPSIA stuff this past winter, and have some good links to other websites, too.
Hope this helps! (And let me know if you figure it out! LOL)