Hey John,
Your items are so rustic and unique -- I had fun looking around your shop!
My advice would be to sometimes add more to the price of the actual item and then lower shipping. I know that seems kind of silly since it is the same amount either way, but as a buyer myself, I hate when I get mentally prepared to pay "X" amount for an item and then shipping adds a LOT more onto that price.
For example, on your rustic cake stand (so cool!):
https://www.etsy.com/listing/209394245/rustic-cake-stand?ref=related-2The item itself is $120 and then shipping is $75. Your shipping makes the product over 50% more expensive, which is a lot! Someone who is prepared to pay $120 might *not* be as prepared to pay nearly $200.
If you made the item itself $150 (or $175) and had shipping as $45 (or $20), I think the shipping cost would be less of a dealbreaker for a potential buyer. Because if you want something bad enough to pay $175, you're not going to be turned off by 20 more.
Just my advice! Play around with it and figure out what works best for bringing in buyers.
Good luck!