hi ladies! i feel your pain. with all the users in the etsy world, it is easy to get lost, easy to be overlooked, and even easier to become discouraged. i have been a member of etsy for about 4 years now; an active seller for about one. coming back to the new & uber-improved etsy.com just close to two months ago, i was very taken aback. the etsy community has grown ten-fold, both with buyers and more-so, sellers. it goes without saying, you will always come across others doing the same thing as you - this just means we all have to work harder to reason to reach out to our audiences, make ourselves known, & be sure our product is being seen.
you both have wonderful product, and well presented shops. maybe you just need to reach out more - join teams, or be more involved in the ones you are part of, add people to your circles, find your buyers!!
Have you set up a google analytics account yet? definitely worth while - can be done right on your shop preferences, on the lower left-hand menu. How much traffic is your shop actually getting?
the more involved you are, it seems, the more you will succeed & once you have a following, youre golden, doll ;D
i, too, work full time, and am also juggling studies on top of that, as well. it can be hard, but do not stress; be patient, continue with your hard work, and mom was right - you will be rewarded!