I should have read the posts more carefully before writing that last post, sorry to be so frivolous.
Maybe it would have been better if I had explained why I chose to say that...
I lived most of my life, up until the last very few years, trying to be perfect, not being perfect, but expecting myself to be perfect and please people. Now I have found a liberating freedom and have come to understand God's Grace as never before. I can see my place in humanity differently now. I have joy as my everyday life, where my best friend once said, You have a joyless script. So talking about dessert is silly, but it represents freedom from so many unnecessary constraints.
So when I say Eat dessert first, I mean, enjoy life, don't worry overmuch about rules. except for the Golden Rule, and then don't worry, just live it.