fluttermill, regarding your headband issue, from what I understand (and please don't quote me on this), as long as the item is not intended PRIMARILY for children you are safe. Also, if the item is geared toward, say, a 10-year old and would appeal to that child beyond age 14, it's not considered a children's item either. I'm basing this on bits that I've read and have TRIED to understand, so maybe you can look further into those 2 points... and bring those headbands back!
Good luck!