does any body have tips to give me, I have 4000 visitors a month and a very low avarege of sales... how do I get more quality visitors, that will tern into sales...?
The best way to have some control over who views your shop and listings is to promote and advertise to your target market customer.
It is very hard to control who views your shop on Etsy searches. I suggest adding keywords like "baby shower decor" and "bridal shower decor" and "kids party decor" etc to the appropriate listings and see if that helps.
You can SEO your shop for both Google and for Etsy. You can also run Google Ads if you like but Google Ads can get very expensive. It can take some trial and error to find the advertizing and promotion that works for your products.