Thank you - was so confused!
THANK YOU!! This has helped me immensely!
Found the solution here:
https://community.etsy.com/t5/Technical-Issues/quot-Offer-gift-message-quot-is-disabled-for-my-shop-...
Basically, according to Etsy:
"Can I disable buyers marking an order as a gift?
You can't disable a buyer’s ability to mark an order as a gift. However, if you don't want to offer gift wrapping or gift message services, you can disable those options.
When a buyer marks an order as a gift, the price of the order is removed from the invoice. You don't need to take any further action unless you offer and the buyer also selected gift wrap or message services."
Article:
https://help.etsy.com/hc/en-us/articles/360000343168-How-to-Offer-Gift-Services?segment=selling