I do thank all the women who responded and gave me a little backbone about charging up front for custom orders. But now I have another ?? How do you go about charging before a sale? don't you have to create a listing? That would imply that something must be shipped, or does it? Can you just put up a listing for the item, shipping charges and all, get the money and then start making the stuff? And then re-list it for the customer for free? Sorry, I scratch my head, don't know how to make that work so that it conforms to Etsy policies. How do you do it?