♫ ♫ ♫ ~ Overcoming Negativity ~ ♫ ♫ ♫ ~ Based on Dale Carnegie Course

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♫ ♫ ♫ ~ Overcoming Negativity ~ ♫ ♫ ♫ ~ Based on Dale Carnegie Course

5 Tips for Overcoming Negativity with Enthusiasm (compiled and adapted from Dale Carnegie Course on a similar topic)

Negative attitudes are a lot like the common cold, it can start with just one associate, but soon everyone is feeling the effects; and, this is certainly never good for genuine teamwork.

Yet, unlike the common cold, there's a real proactive cure.

Enthusiasm and positive attitudes can spread just as quickly-improving relationships and increasing proactive teamwork!

Here are 5 tips for overcoming associate negativity with enthusiasm:

1. Turn Barriers into Opportunities

Look at negative behaviors and attitudes as opportunities for improvement. Now instead of dreading these issues, you can maintain your own positive attitude by controlling your response. Often negativity starts with negative self-talk—the looped messages that play over and over in our heads to darken our outlook and erode our confidence.

2. Replace Negative Self-Talk with Positive Self-Talk

Negative thoughts lead to self-doubt and failure. Look for negative messages in your own thinking or in the thinking and actions of others. Try turning the negatives into positives. Positive thinking will result in positive actions and positive results.

Success Formula

Positive Thinking + Positive Actions = Positive Results!

3. Build Relationships Based on Trust

Use positive attitudes and enthusiasm to build relationships. Negative attitudes make it difficult to trust others; and without trust you can’t influence positive change. Taking action to build trust will increase comfort levels and strengthen relationships. Thus, everyone will feel better and will do a whole lot better here on our team and Etsy-land too.

4. Win People to Your Way of Thinking

The only way to win an argument is to avoid it. When handled correctly, disagreements and debates are opportunities for positive change. When disagreements arise, show respect for the opinions of others, never tell someone they are wrong, and try to see things from the other point of view.

5 Ways to Build Rapport in the Digital Age

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5. Disagree Agreeably

The key question that we all face is, "How do we disagree agreeably and still have our ideas heard?"

Keep the lines of communication open by trying to see things from a different perspective; plus, doing this: To walk in the other person's shoes, one needs to take off their shoes first and walk to where the other person is at. This works best by making the best effort possible, even getting out of one's comfort zone.

Take the time to really think about how the other person thinks and why they feel the way they do. Always, keep in mind that we live and participate here on Etsy in a world wide group of people of all different diverse backgrounds, beliefs, and traditions too.

"Seven Habits of Highly Effective People"

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Additionally one habit that can damage these 7 habits of highly effective people is the habit of "fault-finding" - once it is acquired it is one of the hardest habits of all to break. Why? Fault-finders are the most successful people in the world because they always find what they are looking for 100% of the time - they look for faults and they always find lots of faults.

One of the reasons I personally like to keep my distance from "fault-finders" is that a have a whole big huge bunch of faults and "fault-finders" just love to pick on me. What is also always true is that "bad association ruins useful habits" and just by associating with fault finders your can catch this diseased habit for life. It most definitely can become fatal to owning a positive attitude!

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Someone asked did the closeness of the Moon create a lot of negativity?

Someone else said that the Moon's gravity effect it has on the high tides also affects the water we have on the top of our brains that cause a high tide there?

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Regardless do you think we have too much negativity in the world today?

I always wonder why folks everywhere don't follow the principle of these four words:

"Treasure First Your Relationships!"

Mike

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"How to Win Friends [in order to] Influence People"

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Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1.Don't criticize, condemn, or complain.
2.Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3.Arouse in the other person an eager want.

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Six Ways to Make People Like You

1.Become genuinely interested in other people.
2.Smile.
3.Remember that a person's name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4.Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5.Talk in terms of the other person's interest.
6.Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

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Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking

1.The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2.Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say "You're Wrong."
3.If you're wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4.Begin in a friendly way.
5.Start with questions to which the other person will answer yes.
6.Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7.Let the other person feel the idea is his or hers.
8.Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9.Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10.Appeal to the nobler motives.
11.Dramatize your ideas.
12.Throw down a challenge.

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Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

1.Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2.Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3.Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4.Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5.Let the other person save face.
6.Praise every improvement.
7.Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8.Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9.Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.

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Seven Rules For Making Your Home Life Happier

1.Don't nag.
2.Don't try to make your partner over.
3.Don't criticize.
4.Give honest appreciation.
5.Pay little attentions.
6.Be courteous.
7.Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.

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Bottom Line - Treasure Your Relationships!

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Short article quote from Dale Carnegie Training; FYI:

5 Tips for Managing Yourself During Change: Part 1 Emotions

Change is always happening, but there are some periods in the life of an organization where its impact may be felt more acutely. Some fear these times, but a leader knows that change is inevitable. While workloads and transitions may cause stress, a leader needs to keep her head, in order to assist others and set a good example of how to thrive with change. These first five tips center on a key aspect of self-control: the ability to monitor one's emotions.

1. As leaders, we are expected to model appropriate responses to change. Others in the organization look to us to see how we react to workplace change. Because of this, we have to remember to stay in control of our actions and attitudes.

2. Avoid negative self-talk. Rephrase thoughts of resentment or fear into thoughts of individual growth and opportunity.

3. Be open about your concerns. Chances are that everyone is feeling some level of fear, just like you are. Allow others to understand your frame of mind, but don't focus on negatives.

4. Be realistic about the challenges of successfully coping with the change. Keep your tone light and be humble about what you don't know.

5. Work on being a leader. Transition periods are when leaders are formed. Use email to keep your group appraised on the status of key initiatives and how they're personally helping the company. Quick, informative notes will help you to keep focused, and help your group feel connected.

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Short article (part 2) quote from Dale Carnegie Training; FYI:

5 Tips for Managing Yourself During Times of Change - Part 2 Build Personal Value

Change is always happening, but there are some periods in the life of an organization where its impact may be felt more acutely. Some fear these times, but a leader knows that change is inevitable. While workloads and transitions may cause stress, a leader needs to keep her head, in order to assist others and set a good example of how to thrive with change. These next five tips point to how leaders need to be flexible in their approach to people and situations, in order to allow a solution to form.

1. Gather information through questions and research. Don't go to meetings uninformed, and expected questions about the change when you interact with your teams.

2. Be as productive as you can in your current role. Focus on organizational and record-keeping tasks, so that you are prepared to hand off current responsibilities to someone else. Be ready to demonstrate your competence.

3. Give new ideas a chance. Don’t form quick judgments on new relationships. Keep an open mind.

4. Take on new tasks as a means to upgrade your knowledge and skills where necessary. Try to continue being seen as a valuable, flexible team member.

5. Consider contacting your organization’s resources, such as counselors and mentors to pair up and continue through the transition. Help is usually available if looked for.